10 Things Families Should Do Before College Starts (That Have Nothing to Do With Packing)

A Practical Summer Checklist for Families Preparing for the Next Chapter

Graduation season is winding down.

The photos have been posted. The celebrations are coming to an end. The caps and gowns have been tucked away.

And for many families, summer has arrived with a mix of excitement, anticipation, pride, and perhaps a few unanswered questions.

In a matter of weeks, many young adults will be stepping into a new season of life—whether that means moving onto a college campus, commuting to community college, entering a trade program, joining the military, taking a gap year, or simply becoming more independent.

It’s a significant milestone for students.

It’s also a significant milestone for parents.

While much of the conversation this time of year focuses on dorm room essentials, orientation schedules, meal plans, and move-in day logistics, some of the most important preparation has nothing to do with packing.

In fact, the weeks between graduation and the start of classes may be one of the best opportunities families have to strengthen communication, build confidence, practice life skills, and prepare for the realities of adulthood.

If you’re wondering how to make the most of the summer ahead, here are ten things worth adding to your family’s checklist.

1. Establish New Communication Expectations

One of the biggest adjustments for both parents and students is communication.

Parents often assume they’ll hear from their student regularly. Students often assume they’ll call when they have time.

Those expectations don’t always match.

Before classes begin, talk about:

• How often you’ll connect

• Preferred methods of communication

• Family expectations

• Important dates and check-ins

Summer Tip:

Rather than leaving communication to chance, consider establishing a weekly call, dinner, or check-in now. Building the habit before school starts often makes the transition easier for everyone.


2. Help Your Student Build a Support Network

One of the greatest predictors of student success isn’t intelligence.

It’s connection.

Students who know where to turn when they need help are often better equipped to navigate challenges when they arise.

Encourage your student to identify trusted people they can reach out to for support, guidance, encouragement, or accountability.

This may include:

• Family members

• Mentors

• Advisors

• Professors

• Coaches

• Faith leaders

• Trusted family friends

Summer Tip:

Ask your student to identify three people they would feel comfortable calling if they needed help.


3. Practice Adulting Before It’s Required

Many young adults arrive on campus academically prepared but practically unprepared.

Summer offers a perfect opportunity to practice basic life skills.

Can they:

• Schedule an appointment?

• Refill a prescription?

• Manage a calendar?

• Complete paperwork?

• Communicate professionally?

• Do laundry?

• Prepare a simple meal?

The goal isn’t perfection.

The goal is confidence.

Summer Tip:

Choose one new responsibility each week and gradually allow your student to take ownership of it.


4. Discuss How Setbacks Will Be Handled

At some point, something won’t go according to plan.

A difficult class.

A disappointing grade.

A roommate conflict.

Homesickness.

A change in direction.

Setbacks are a normal part of growth.

The students who navigate challenges most effectively aren’t necessarily the ones who avoid problems—they’re often the ones who know how to respond when problems arise.

Summer Tip:

Share stories about your own setbacks and what helped you move forward.


5. Talk About Values Before Decisions Have To Be Made

College and young adulthood often introduce new freedoms, new influences, and new choices.

Before students find themselves in difficult situations, discuss the values that will help guide their decisions.

Topics may include:

• Integrity

• Responsibility

• Relationships

• Faith

• Respect

• Leadership

• Personal accountability

• Service

Summer Tip:

Ask your student:

“What kind of person do you hope to become over the next few years?”

The answer often reveals far more than conversations about majors or careers.


6. Create A Plan For Financial Responsibility

Financial literacy is one of the most important life skills young adults can develop.

Before school begins, discuss:

• Budgeting

• Spending habits

• Banking

• Credit cards

• Emergency expenses

• Financial aid responsibilities

Summer Tip:

Give students opportunities to manage portions of their own budget before classes begin.

Helpful Resources:

EveryDollar

YNAB (You Need A Budget)

Monarch Money

Consumer Financial Protection Bureau


7. Prioritize Wellness Before Stress Arrives

Success isn’t just about academics.

Students perform better when they are physically, emotionally, and mentally healthy.

Talk about:

• Sleep

• Nutrition

• Exercise

• Stress management

• Mental health

• Healthy routines

Summer Tip:

Encourage students to establish routines now rather than waiting until life becomes overwhelming.


8. Explore Campus and Community Resources Early

Many students don’t discover available resources until they’re already struggling.

Spend time this summer exploring:

• Student Success Centers

• Academic Advising

• Tutoring Programs

• Career Centers

• Student Organizations

• Leadership Opportunities

• Volunteer Programs

• Campus Ministries

• Counseling Services

Students who feel connected often adjust more successfully.


9. Redefine Independence

One of the biggest misconceptions about adulthood is that independence means doing everything alone.

Healthy independence means knowing when to seek guidance, ask questions, solve problems, and take responsibility.

Summer Tip:

Gradually shift responsibility for appointments, paperwork, transportation, and communication to your student.

Confidence grows through experience.


10. Make Time For Memories

In the rush to prepare for what’s next, don’t forget to enjoy what is right now.

The summer before a major life transition often passes quickly.

Take the trip.

Go out for coffee.

Watch the movie.

Take the walk.

Have the conversation.

Create the memory.

Years from now, those moments may matter just as much as any item packed for move-in day.

Because long after move-in day has passed, what students carry with them often matters more than what they snugly packed in cardboard boxes.


Looking For Additional Support This Summer?

Families don’t have to navigate this season alone.

This summer, Single Moms Society is highlighting education, career, transportation, financial wellness, and family support resources designed to help parents and caregivers navigate the teen-to-young-adult years.

Families are also invited to explore our Before College Move-In Day conversation series, featuring educators, mentors, community leaders, and college success advocates discussing topics such as resilience, mentorship, purpose, communication, student success, and preparing young adults for what comes next.

Watch live or catch the replay on Instagram at @theprceo.

For additional resources, local programs, and support services available in your area, visit our Education & Career ResourcesEducation & Career Resources section.

Added Bonus ➡️:  🎓 Complimentary Resource for Families

Before move-in day arrives, download our free Before College Starts Parent Checklist—a practical guide designed to help families navigate important conversations, life skills, planning, and preparation during the weeks leading up to the next chapter.

Download your complimentary copy here!

 

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